During my senior years, I have noticed some remarkable changes in my attitude. I laugh and have more fun in my mid-seventies than I have ever had. Life evolves in surprising and funny ways, and when unwanted events spring up around me, I no longer take them as seriously as I once did.
I adored being a young mother. The babies mesmerized me. Developmental stages proved fascinating and teen years brought more fun times than sad ones. Life blessed me with children who had good hearts and brains and who survived their often-confused mother with their own wit and laughter. True, I felt sad when the nest emptied. Yes, I missed all those fun times. And yet, how freeing to live quietly and simply. How comforting to know the “children” now live competent and satisfying lives without any assistance or prompting from me. Continue reading
When my granddaughter gets discouraged, I often write brief pieces to her. My purpose is to turn every life event into a learning opportunity. Below, you will find the first one I wrote.
The things in life that make you happy tend to multiply when you notice and say “thank you” for them. I am only a tiny bit embarrassed to confess that I “thank” my flowers for blooming and tell them how beautiful they are. In response, those Turk’s Caps are crazy gorgeous!
You want your brother to be more respectful? Thank that guy for all the helpful and fun things he does. You want teachers to be thoughtful to you? Smile! Your smile says more than a thousand words. When a class is interesting or helpful, tell that teacher. Noticing what makes you happy requires you to really — truly wake up. Look and listen with the intent of noticing what is working in your life. Once you notice, add that item, person, or action to your gratitude list.
It’s easy to notice what isn’t working and what does not feel good. We humans seem to fall into that pit effortlessly. It’s simple to complain and grind your teeth about what isn’t going smoothly. The human challenge lies in noticing goodness and in seeking solutions to situations that beg for improvements. With beauty and intelligence, you are already rising to this level of awareness.