Tag Archives: Intrinsic Values

Oh NO! What About Mean Kids?

The post below was written for Chandler following a run-in with his peers at school.  

Some people seem to enjoy putting others down.  It seems like they are collecting notches on their belts like the old “gun slingers” of Western days.  What an unhappy way to exist! Unfortunately, you will occasionally bump into people who appear to thrive on being nasty with words. Your defenses lie in self-talk and in humor. Continue reading

Encourage Effort Over Outcome

Sometimes, well-intentioned teachers and parents create new problems by giving more praise and rewards than a child can accept. Gushy praise and extravagant rewards tend to detract from the pleasure of intrinsic satisfaction. The child receiving the praise or reward may feel I’m not really that great. I don’t deserve this.   Sometimes a child will revert to negative behavior to reveal her true self to you.

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