One of the most cherished beliefs in parenting and in teaching insists that we must punish children. Punishments require little thought. However, when children fail to see a relationship between their behavior and your punishment, they feel resentful. On the other hand, consider the following idea.
Although we do not need to punish children, we must help children make connections between actions and resulting consequences.
The more that consequences (negative or positive) fit behaviors, the greater understanding children can gain. Most parents and teachers want to promote self-responsibility in children rather than to force compliance through fear. When your consequences make sense to a child, you provide a learning opportunity.
The following examples demonstrate the differences in natural consequences (which occur with no action from you) and logical consequences (which require some participation on your part). Continue reading